📱 eBook en inglés PERFECTIONISM AS PROTECTION AGAINST THE VULNERABILITY OF BEING ORDINARY

Perfectionism isnt about high standards—its about safety. Its the belief that if you control enough variables, work hard enough, anticipate every problem, you can protect yourself from judgment, failure, or rejection. Overthinking becomes the tool: analyzing every detail, rehearsing conversations, second-guessing decisions. But the perfection youre chasing isnt excellence—its invulnerability.
This book explores why perfectionism develops, examining the ways early experiences with criticism, conditional approval, or high expectations taught you that your worth depends on flawless performance. It draws on research around shame, anxiety, and cognitive patterns to show how perfectionism and overthinking reinforce each other—one demanding impossible standards, the other endlessly calculating how to meet them.
Rather than treating perfectionism as ambition gone wrong or offering strategies to "lower your standards," it examines what perfectionism is actually protecting you from: the terror of being seen as inadequate, the fear that imperfection equals unworthiness, the belief that rest or mistakes will cost you love or belonging. It explores the difference between striving and proving, between growth and self-punishment.
For those who cant stop analyzing, who feel trapped by their own expectations, or who recognize that their drive for perfection is really a defense against shame, this book offers insight into what becomes possible when you stop trying to be flawless and start trying to be human.